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A Liturgy for Those Who Have Suffered a Miscarriage or Stillbirth

This week, we are grateful to share a liturgy from Douglas McKelvey’s upcoming Every Moment Holy, Vol. II: “A Liturgy for Those Who Have Suffered a Miscarriage or Stillbirth.” You can now view the full text for the liturgy as well as a special reading from Andrew Peterson.



Leader: O Christ Who Gathered Children in Your Arms,

You know our ache. You know this void no human words can fill.

You understand this grief for our little one, lost while in the womb.

You were witness to our rising joy. You saw our crumbling hope. Now you behold our sinking sorrow.

People: Christ, be merciful, for we are frail. And in our frailty we have suffered such loss.

Heavenly Father, see what room our love had already carved out—in our home and in our hearts—for the welcome and the wonder of this child, whose face we had not kissed, and whose tiny hands we had not held, but who had already grown so precious to us.

Were we not radiant with anticipation, O Lord, building forward to the day when we would finally meet and cradle our sweet child?

Only to be met instead with this cratering heartache of sudden loss, this unexpected death of our little one before birth; and with it this dying of dreams for all that might have been. Christ, be merciful for we are frail. And in our frailty we have suffered such loss.

For here we have entered a communion, O Lord, a fellowship none have ever wished to join, of all mothers and fathers and families across time who have wept for their lost children.

We lament so much that now will never be. This child we lost will be for us in this life like a song unsung, and a story untold.

Christ, be merciful, for we are frail. And in our frailty we have suffered such loss.

The petitioners sit a moment in the silence of this grief.

And yet, even in our deep loss, O Lord, you have not abandoned us or left us without light and hope.

For we remember how you, Jesus, loved and welcomed little ones, touching their heads and blessing them, declaring that the kingdom of heaven belonged to these.

And you have told us that your promises are for us and for our children.

And this one whom we lost, was this not also our child, O God?

Our hearts ache even to ponder such things, but is it possible that when all creation is made new, we will find fellowship there with one we could not hold in this life?

Could the redemption of this world’s harms run so deep? So beyond all imagining?

Your word says little of such mysteries. And yet, in what is revealed we find good reason to take heart.

Christ, be merciful, for we are frail. And in our frailty we have suffered such loss.

For even amidst uncertainty, this we know to be true of your works, O Father, and this we will cling to:

Your grace, your mercy, your redemption, and your love will extend further and will be more wondrous in their perfection than we have ever imagined.

However we might try to conceive of such joys, that conception will be either errant or incomplete, because we, in our finite knowledge and capacity for hope, will limit the picture we paint in ways that you, in your limitless joy and relentless grace, will never be bounded by. However we might envision the redemption of this loss, the actual redemption that you effect will be still more glorious.

So let us learn to steward well this holy sorrow, assured that it is in some way the buried seed of a flower that will blossom into eternity.

O Christ, be merciful, for we are frail. And in our frailty we have suffered such loss.

Indeed, this future hope will not end the pain we feel today. It does not negate the emptiness of the womb where new life stirred. It does not fill the empty cradle.

But it does declare that the empty cradle and the empty womb will not have power to grieve us forever, for one day our eternal joys will flow backward in time, even to this broken place. And then those joys will fill every emptiness and every heartbreak the children of God have ever endured.

Now, O Lord, we remember your past faithfulness. We receive your present comforts. We await your future redemptions. Let us, in this and in all sorrows, be met by your lovingkindness and consoled by your hope.

For yours, O Father, is the kingdom, and the power, and the glorious redemption of all our losses.

Even of this one.

Amen.



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